We all need to be validated. Receive recognition that gives us strength and security. When we receive this approval from an authority figure, such as our father, we feel supported and gain confidence.
If a woman does not receive this approval from her father, she may end up needing a “loving bodyguard” at all times. In other words, we look to others for emotional support, which often results in: codependency. You may find it difficult to go out into the outside world and face its challenges because you don’t feel capable. On top of that, Other characteristics are often present, such as fear of abandonment or fear of quarrels.As a result, they develop a negative attitude towards life. This happens because they focus all their attention and expectations on others. This unidentified woman often unconsciously says to herself, “I can’t do it alone…I can’t do it alone…I need someone to help me.”
This is why, when we break up with a partner, we begin to think that “without him I am nothing”, without him “my life no longer has any meaning”. As a result, always Placed last, you will not be able to see its multiple features and strengths.
So how can women who are not authenticated become free? Basically, choose put yourself firstThis is not a selfish act as many people think, but rather a healthy way to position yourself in life.
You may be wondering, “If I’m always looking out for others, how do I put myself first?” The answer begins with radical acceptance. In other words, accepting yourself as you are, including your light and shadow, virtues and flaws.. This is a basic step. Because that’s the basis for you to start loving yourself, valuing yourself, and respecting yourself for what you truly deserve. Regarding all this, don’t try to be a copy of someone else;Your essence lies in being who you are. Celebrate yourself every day with your uniqueness and the special way you are. Don’t let anyone invalidate your desires and go for what your heart speaks to you.