Sometimes we just need a little push, a kind gesture, or an expression of support and encouragement to take the step we need to take, and that will go very well for us.
We often know what we need to do but don’t do it. That’s obvious, but … It would be very good for us not to eat chocolate, drink coffee or go out to play sports, but we don’t do that. We are fully aware that it is inconvenient for us, but there is no rational argument to justify it. When the time is up, open the fridge and pour yourself another glass of wine or send a message to a friend that you won’t be riding your bike today.
What’s wrong with us? Well, we don’t help each other. See, we all have bread internal. A primitive monkey who doesn’t listen to reason. a impulsive monkey, They are short-term oriented and make decisions even when they know they are useless.
We also have NASA engineers in our company. Well, maybe I exaggerated. There are smart people who plan, analyze and make rational decisions. from Calmwe can analyze that the best thing we can do is go to the gym, give up sugar and close social networks.
What that silence gives us is perspective We need to be able to make good decisions over the medium to long term, and those decisions often involve doing small things. effort In the short term. I feel lazy to go out in the cold, but once I get into the pool, I like the feeling of effort and relaxation I get after a fun swim.
It’s obvious that coffee isn’t for me, but when you have a coffee maker at home, it’s very difficult to resist drinking your favorite coffee first thing in the morning, while it’s still dark, even though you know it’s not good for you.
It’s about helping us a little bit or subduing us. control To the gorilla in our hearts. In fact, some people, like NASA engineers, have giant gorillas, while others have small monkeys.
If you have a drawer full of chocolate, a coffee maker at home, or an empty bag (maybe even stuffed with gym clothes), there’s no stopping a gorilla.
What we can do is make life a little more difficult for our inner monkey so that it doesn’t thwart the plans that engineers have made with calmness and reason.
please help yourself. The refrigerator is full of healthy foods, so please take advantage of them. Pack your pool bag and meet up with your sports friends. Help yourself by eliminating temptation. Help yourself by making things harder that don’t suit you.
In short, it helps you maintain yourself routine when willpower and responsibility Failure.
I’m very rational and have a lot of willpower, but self control Regarding some areas or specific practices or topics.
Trust me, it has nothing to do with lack of will. What happens is that in the heat of the moment we often open the monkey cage door. Then the monkey goes all out and pushes away our plans and wise engineers.
Help yourself by designing around it It is kind to you and in harmony with healthy behaviors and habits that will give you health, calm, and quality of life.
If you want simple and direct advice, always have your bike ready, your tires inflated, your gym bag ready, and anything that could harm you away.
You can find other tips for achieving big changes by taking small steps in the book “The Kaizen Path” (Neko Books) by Tomas Navarro (@tomasnavarropsi on Instagram). Her book Your Red Lines (Zenith/Planeta) sets limits on people who hurt us, Think Beautiful explores more creative, more open, and resilient thinking styles, and Rita and the Golden helps young children manage their emotions. Shell” was written with my wife Nuria Pablos (@nuriapablos). You can also read other articles by ABC Bienestar’s Tomás Navarro here
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